In Hollywood, the image of the overwhelmed father is played for laughs, and the results are rarely anything more serious than an awkward diaper change or a frustrated cry of “Ahhh!”
But in reality, experts say the stress of raising children can cause problems for fathers’ mental health, which can affect not only their physical health but also their children’s well-being.
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